Work
In addition to running Collaborate Consulting, Trystan puts his skills to work as a speaker, executive coach, and writer.
Presenting
“Trystan is all the things a good presenter should be: engaging, entertaining, and informative. He is also more than that: he’s incredibly smart about the way he presents information, utilizing exercises and techniques to facilitate understanding and inclusion.”
Executive Coaching
Presence
When I work with you, you’ll get my full attention and focus. It’s rare to have someone truly listen to everything you’re saying (and not saying), from your words to your embodied experience. I am fully present to your challenges, successes, hopes, and fears.
One of my group coaching clients says this: “Trystan delivered a thoughtful and organized process that moved us from feeling both wounded and full of shame into a space of reflection and healing so that we were then able to receive the community’s feedback and fully it integrate into our lives and our organization.”
Practicality
This is not therapy. I hope you have an actual therapist for that. This is full-on planning mode. Where do you want to be, where are you now, and what is getting in the way. I’ll give you concrete tools to get from here to there while removing barriers internal and external as we go.
One of my coaching clients says this: “Our coaching sessions gave me the skills and the confidence to lead my team through a difficult season while working toward changing our policies, procedures and expectations in order to build an inclusive, anti-oppressive work culture.”
Perspective
I can’t help it— I want you to thrive. No, that’s not right… I want you to be WILDLY successful. To make all the change in the world while living a life that empowers you to keep making change for a very long time.
One of my coaching clients says this: “Trystan is kind, but not at all acquiescent--he firmly holds the space for growth, but without judgment.”
Writing
Trystan is a 2021 Lambda Literary Emerging LGBTQ Voices Fellow and the solo author of How We Do Family, a memoir described as “a refreshing new take on family life for the LGBTQ community and beyond.” He also co-wrote a children’s book with his partner, Biff. It’s called The Light Of You and was published by Flamingo Rampant Press. Trystan is an essayist whose work is currently being housed on Substack. His contributions to academic research can be found here.
How We Do Family
My first full-length book was released on June 8th. Drag superstar Willam Belli says, “You’ll learn stuff, but you’ll like it.” New York Times Best-Selling author Andrew Solomon says, “Trystan Reese writes with great tenderness and compassion, and also with a well-considered agenda of political and social activism.”
The Mindful Masculinity Workbook
I wrote an essay about becoming a man, something I never wanted to do, in this beautiful, practical guide to creating positive relationships with masculinity.
Weird Parenting Wins
I wrote several parenting anecdotes for this fun book dedicated to all the strange parent hacks people have come up with along their family-building and kid-raising journeys.
NPR’s 2019 Best Books of the Year
Hundreds of Rave Reviews
"Trystan is one of the most skilled facilitators that I have ever met, in over 20+ years of doing social justice work. He comes to the work with not just knowledge and ability but also humor, passion and great integrity... I would recommend him for trainings, coaching, strategic planning, organizational development... basically anything your organization needs."
— Nancy Haque, Executive Director, Basic Rights Oregon
"Trystan is a gifted facilitator, able to introduce big concepts in ways that are accessible to any audience... While there are many consultants who can be trained on a scripted presentation, Trystan stands apart in how he is comfortable sharing from his own experience, and how he can adapt on the spot... No one would leave a training where Trystan is facilitating feeling embarrassed for not knowing, because Trystan meets people where they are at."
— A.J. Mendoza, Portland Jobs With Justice
“I could not more enthusiastically recommend him. He is a profoundly beautiful storyteller that inspired our attendees into action as authentic, inclusive leaders... Trystan navigated his time with us with professionalism and expertise... really one of the best speakers we ever booked."
— Rachel Rubin, Out & Equal Workplace Advocates— Nancy Haque, Executive Director, Basic Rights Oregon
— Rachel Rubin, Out & Equal
— Nancy Haque, Executive Director, Basic Rights Oregon
— Nancy Haque, Executive Director, Basic Rights Oregon
— Nancy Haque, Executive Director, Basic Rights Oregon
"Trystan's ability to take somewhat lofty ideas and relate them to the way we all move in the world is just superb. He left us with actionable steps we could apply both internally at Harry's and when interacting with customers."
— Alisha Sedor, Senior Manager of Internal Communications, Harry's, Inc.
"From the moment he began speaking, it was clear that he was a fantastic presenter... engaging, entertaining, and informative. Trystan was more than that, though. He gauged the room... and successfully created a space that made people feel comfortable to ask questions... multiple people reporting that it was 'the best training the firm has ever had.'"
— Carlisle Pearson, Esq., Associate Attorney, Lane Powell PC
"Trystan creates an environment where you are challenged to think and reflect, but also feel secure and welcomed. He has a great style and approach to DEI topics that leaves people wanting to continue the discussion and learn more."
— Rebecca Cianci, Assistant Dean for Administration, Penn State Smeal College of Business